Nancy Sherman, Director of Bereavement Services for the Center for Grief & Healing with Hospice of the North Shore, says support groups provide an answer for many people. According to Sherman, support groups “offer a safe place where people who are hurting come together to work through their grief.” Supportive family members, friends and therapists have their place in grief recovery, but drawing support from and giving support to others who are going through the same thing provides a kind of help one can’t find elsewhere. According to one support group member cited by Sherman, “Hearing how others feel makes you feel you’re not alone.”

Still, people are often wary of participating in groups, according to Sherman. Many are simply uncomfortable with the notion of talking about their feelings in front of others, while others hold misconceptions about support groups that prevent them from opening themselves to the relief and healing a group can offer. Following are five popular myths about grief support groups, countered by reality.

Myth: Everyone in the group has to talk.
Reality: Although the group is formed on the premise that talking through your grief is helpful, no one is forced to talk. Grief groups are non-threatening gatherings, and many people are helped simply by listening.

Myth: My grief isn’t as severe (or important, or serious) as others.
Reality: Although grief is a universal experience, everyone’s grief is different. Bereaved individuals are encouraged not to compare themselves to anyone else. The common bond is the need for help in coping with grief.

Myth: A grief support group will be depressing.
Reality: In fact, many find the opposite to be true. Group participants feeling relieved and uplifted when they realize they are not alone in their emotions. Groups provide a supportive environment where people can feel release their emotions to make room for healing.

Myth: My loss happened a long time ago; I’ll feel silly to bring it up now.
Reality: Grief follows no timetable. Many milestone events – weddings, anniversaries or birthdays, for example – can trigger memories that make the loss feel painfully new. A support group can help people cope with a loss, no matter when that loss occurred.

Myth: Grief support groups are only for the families of people who received foster care.
Reality: Although grief support groups are often (but not always) sponsored by hospice organizations, services are usually open to anyone who has experienced a loss, often at no charge or for a small fee. The generous donations of grateful participants help support these programs.

In truth, then, support groups offer hope for the future to anyone who’s grieving. To find a support group near you, contact your local hospice organization.